Welcome to Episode 320 of The Ziglar Show. I’m your proud host, Kevin Miller, and will lead off with my favorite Ziglar quote, “If you believe your product or service can fulfill a true need, it is your moral obligation to sell it." Today my intent is to sell you, and me, on doing something I for one find…uncomfortable. But, I trust Zig, and I’m going to give away, for free, the tool to make it possible.
The show title comes from something Zig says in the upcoming clip, “The most life changing thing you’ll ever encounter.” If you want to truly change your life for the better, become successful as you define it, this is a foundational key. Which I’m sensitive to say so strongly, as it seems everyone these days is leading off with a headline saying their thing is THE ONLY thing. This isn’t of course the only thing. But when you hear the punchline, I think you’ll come to agree this is foundational. And folks, I’ll start off by saying, I’ve never done it personally, and after this show, I’m going to.
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OK, let’s get to our topic and our message from Zig today.
Studies have shown that 80% of our inner self-talk is negative, and the results to our lives are catastrophic. We're talking in the spirit of Henry Ford’s famous quote “Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right."
As you’ll hear in this message from Zig, for people suffering from borderline personality disorder, a leading doctor prescribed they take in positive thinking messages at least 15 minutes a day. To me, this harkens to the Bible and Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. So that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”
Another way of looking at it…everyday your muscles are getting weaker, staying the same, or getting stronger, based upon how much you do or do not work them out. The results will show as you age.
Likewise, everyday your hope and belief and inspiration that fuels your actions is getting weaker, holding steady, or getting stronger based upon what you tell yourself you believe about yourself. And watch out, don’t think that you don’t talk to yourself. You may not say it out loud or consciously talk to yourself internally, but you are moment by moment taking actions based on what you believe about yourself and what your subconscious psyche is saying and believing.
Most people are just going forward through the grind of the day, going through the motions, with no thought of who or what internal messages are driving them.
So let me ask you, How are you doing? Are you hopeful? Optimistic? Faithful? Are you proud of yourself? Are you at peace with who you are, what you’re adding up to, what you have to show for yourself and your place in life? I’ll admit I can’t say yes to all of those things.
And if not, then you won’t accidentally land at success, however you define it. You’ll most likely land at regret unless you take time everyday to transform your mind.
This is what Zig devoted his life to and became a master at, for himself and teaching others. Why would any of us think we were an exception? Knowing it is pointless. Only doing it counts. Which is the point we’re about to get to in today’s show.
We all have some daily wellness habits:
- Brushing our teeth, taking a shower, personal hygiene
- Exercise, hopefully
- Taking vitamins and eating healthy
- Investing in relationships, tell those we love…we love them
- Investing spiritually
We know who and what we are is the culmination of what we do or don’t do…over the course of our days, weeks and months.
What do we do about…transforming our minds? Let’s talk about this.
The news, music, TV, may inform us entertain us or pass the time, but they don’t transform us. How-to books may teach us things, but that’s not often truly transforming your mind. Zig says the most life changing thing that you will ever encounter is…talking to yourself and saying the right things.
Without further ado, here is Zig. Listen, then…I have something to give you, so you can start. It’s free, and I’m going to do it with you, for the first time in my life.
So there you go, but I’m gonna level with you. I don’t want to talk to myself. It feels uncomfortable and hokey. Further, I know me! Telling myself things that aren’t true seems ridiculous. To stand in front of a mirror and say these things is almost undoable. But I noticed that Zig didn’t say, “Say these things are true when they aren’t.” He said…claim them.
A definition of the word claim is: a demand or request for something considered one's due.
Which got me to thinking…what am I due? Now we’re getting deep. We are talking about what we really think we deserve. Many people want things and complain about not having them, but when you get eye-to-eye serious in the mirror, what do we really believe we deserve? And as Zig said, we’re not talking about ourselves alone. What do those we love and care about, whose lives we influence…what do they deserve?
We’re talking about self worth here. The nitty gritty.
Most everyone listening has pursued positive messages. But very few of us have ever done this, talked to ourselves and claimed a better belief and reality than what we have now. Me included. It’s one thing to read positive words. It’s another to have someone say encouraging, supporting things about us.
But folks, it’s an even more...entirely different ballgame, to look ourselves in the eyes and speak out loud. Entirely. Which is why it’s foreign and uncomfortable.
Another way it occurred to me was…speaking a blessing over myself. That feels a bit more acceptable, at least to me. Can I speak a blessing over myself, of the things I want to claim for myself, my family, my duty and ability to God and others?
Zig cites Joel 3:10 “Let the weak say I am strong." Say it…out loud? Literally?
Are you game to try, with me?
Zig ended his message with the story of the man whose income increased 500%, who got so convicted about always being last and valuing his time above others.
I’m betting this showcases that this exercise ends up revealing the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. The limits we’ve accepted. And for many, the limits and labels others have put on us, that we’ve agreed to.
So here’s what we’re going to do folks. We’re going to do this together.
Right now, go to ziglar.com/show/selftalk
You can download Zig’s self-talk cards by simply providing your name and email address. There are two versions, one with Bible references, one without.
You’ll immediately get the self-talk card to download, then you’ll also get a series of scheduled emails from me over the next month to prompt you. At the end I’ll ask for testimonials of your experience, which I’ll read in a follow-up show.
So go now, ziglar.com/show/selftalk
Get yours and let’s see what happens. This isn’t a product promotion folks, it’s merely an offering to help us all.
Here we go, and thanks for tuning in to The Ziglar Show, where the goal is…Inspiring Your True Performance.