Show # 449: Inspired but alone

Show # 449: Inspired but alone


Tom Ziglar and Kevin Miller answer real questions from podcast listeners. We have some tactical questions and some deep, personal development questions today. Chances are 100% you’ll hear something that resonates, inspires, and equips you! Thanks to ZipRecruiter and Princess Cruise Lines for their support of this episode.

[00:00] Welcome to the Ziglar Show. This is episode 449, and we have a Q&A show with Ziglar CEO Tom Ziglar and your host Kevin Miller, that’s me, answering some real-life, nitty gritty questions from our listeners. We have some tactical questions, and some deep, personal development questions today. Chances are 100% you’ll hear something that resonates, inspires, and equips you!

[01:12] Hi, everyone, I’m Kevin Miller, your host of the Ziglar Show. Thanks to all those who have been submitting questions. As you listen today and have a question, or maybe you have something nagging you, inspiring you, or even irritating you about a recent show…let us know. You can submit a written or audio question at, or simply email us at [email protected]

[01:56] And, as always, thanks for the great reviews in iTunes and Stitcher. They encourage us greatly, and they help folks who are new to the Ziglar Show get a flavor for what we offer. Hey, they also encourage our interviewees! For instance, this review recently came into iTunes: When I saw that, I immediately copied it and sent it directly to John, as well as Tom Ziglar. John was thrilled and blessed.

[03:25] OK, here, then, I bring in Tom, and we dive into your questions:

[03:32] Good to see you, Tom. I think it is a time for Ziglar HQ New Year’s update. What is happening?

[03:42] Well, Kevin, I tell you what -- that New Year is starting off fantastic. Had a tour of the headquarters and that was cool, need some people. We got a few things coming up, we got a new business over there. The Ziglar message is reaching far and wide. I get dozens of emails every day, I mean everything is going fantastic. I am looking forward to 2017 and it really is what you make it. And three things, before we get into this, for how to make 2017 a new year:

  1. You gotta work on your mindset
  2. Write goals down in detail
  3. Do the work

There you go. That is the recipe for 2017 from Ziglar HQ.

[05:40] Good morning Kevin and Tom, You are constantly talking about "doing what you're good at, and passion will follow," "don't waste time and focus on your skills," "live life now, don't wait until you're retired to start living."

[05:55] I think this is ultra-useful and amazing advice for a plus 35-year-old, already successful, white male. However, I would love advice to younger and diverse listeners (and lovers) of your show.

[06:08] I am currently:

  • 25 years old Mexican legal immigrant in South Texas for about five years
  • Halfway through my MBA
  • Have zero experience in what I am not even sure I want to start a career on, but know it's profitable (Data Analytics)
  • Have manageable amount of debt
  • Frustrated that I am wasting my best years

[06:26] I genuinely care for people; customer service and leadership are my strongest skills. I am the type of person that friends and family come to asking for help and advice. However, I know I would be a successful business owner because I work hard and have the education and drive to help people by providing them with real value. Still, I have no idea what type of business venture I can dedicate my skills to meaningfully, instead of just for profit or working in a company I really don't enjoy being in. I want to start enjoying life NOW.

[06:55] I have been listening to your amazing show for about a year and it has been life-changing. Thank God I found your podcast, because I listen to it every single day. You have made me a better person.

Thank you!

Alberto "Beto" Marcos

[09:23] So what you do is you take your skills, your talent, your education, the things that come naturally and easy to you, and you walk in the general direction in which you might want to focus. And here is the thing about the goal setting. As far as you go, you can see; you will be able to see even better.

> > Listen to the exchange on the program

[10:30] If we have a dream, we wanna own something, we wanna build something or become something, we put in a plan to get there. We don’t have to know where it is gonna end up in five years or ten years from now. We can, instead, say, “This is what I am gonna do in the next ten years, here are the books I am gonna read, here are the people I am gonna meet, here are the mentors I am gonna seek out, here are the steps I am gonna take in that direction.”

[12:17] Somebody else asked about a profile we have mentioned in the past show that has to do with choosing career directions and that was talking with my dad, Dan Miller, and the DISC profile they use at

If you look at a lot of people who have succeeded in their pursuit, and they have succeeded in their business world as a business owner, very few of them have done so without some specific leadership or mentorship in that direction -- but a lot of them paid for it.

[18:25] Hello, Ziglar Podcast, First of all, thanks so much for doing the podcast. It has been a real help in my life. I was a fan of Zig’s in the past, and finding him again via podcast has been a way to keep his good messages a part of my daily feed.

[18:38] I took particular interest in the podcast about React vs. Respond. I have been told I was “too reactionary”! Through my life of 54 years, I have learned to hold back my reactions more, and respond with fewer words and emotion. However, in the past few months I had an awful setback and the walls came tumbling down. I reacted to a point that I could not control and it scared me. (The listener goes on to share details of a very hard couple of decades as a single mother with very hurtful experiences with her ex and a son.] Since then, I have been flooding my heart and my mind with reading and listening to positive, meditative things like the Ziglar podcast. I meditate every day now. I am learning to be happy, even if events don’t go my way, as life happens. I would like to hear a podcast on reconciling with those you love. I would like a strategy to build a bridge. I forgive over and over in my heart, but it is taking time.

Thank you and God bless,


[19:22] This keeps coming up. Because we hear that, and we understand reacting vs. responding. And, as it comes down to having that ability, what I keep hearing from people is a personal pain. If we back up from reacting vs. responding, we are talking about self-image, self-control, forgiveness, healing; it is a deep question.

[21:15] If you are gonna go and ask for forgiveness, the simple straight-forward approach is the best way, and that is you like the person and can talk privately and look directly at them and say, “I was thinking about what happened, I need to ask you for forgiveness. I reacted and it was wrong, so I need to ask you for forgiveness. So please forgive me.”

[31:01] Sometimes we get into where we set up the situation unintentionally that gets reaction out of this, because we didn’t approach it in the right way.

[33:08] Next question here is a great one. It says that I am struggling with following through with executing the thoughts of creating the life career that I feel inside and constantly think about! Always starting and stopping! I want to be like Zig, to share and inspire others to help change lives. I have changed jobs numerous times in search of finding the time to build the images of a new way of being in life, and believe I can make an impact, but find myself avoiding the actions necessary to become the leader that I know I can be! Forty-nine years old, and now feel my time is ticking and do not want to have regrets! Love the show, avid listener! Keep up the amazing work!

[34:15] I learn to really look at: 1. Do I really care about this specific thing enough to do that? If I am not doing it, there may be a problem with my core motive. Is my motive strong enough so that I can find people?

[36:50] I love that why. Is it really your dream, is it really your goal, and then how can you take steps to action on it? I am gonna be really practical. I am gonna follow up. You know you said that I have my perfect start of the day, I had 90 minutes but I shared with you the first 45 minutes. The second 45 minutes is the one thing, one thing that I want done that day. And, by the way, I do all this before I check emails, social media, do anything. So, if it is really your dream, you need to transform it into a goal. What is it that you keep starting and not finishing, what is your goal and what does it look like? What is it that you will achieve and you’re gonna put a deadline to it? What will be the goal setting process? And you gotta go through with that process.

[39:00] So you are talking about your perfect start. I am always interested in hearing about the people that are doing things that I want to do; how they live their lives. I think we all enjoyed that. It is great to hear that.

[41:43] My opportunity clock is set usually around 4:30 or maybe 5 am. In the last six months, if I happened to wake up and look to the clock and it is only 3:45 am, I’ll get excited because I have an extra 45 minutes to my start to the day.

[42:31]Evan Herrman He says, as a listener to the podcast, this is something I struggle with or question all the time. Being a follower of the podcast, I love hearing all the great success stories of how people were just like me and then made it through different avenues. The disconnect I, and probably other listeners, have is because those that have made it we put on a higher pedestal because we see the end result and not the transformation. Even when experiences of the transformation are shared. Therefore, as a listener the thoughts are that's great they did it with that system, but can I really do it? I personally listen to the podcast for hope and inspiration and encouragement, and I get all those things from it and even lessons about transformation for myself, but at the end of the day I still feel alone in the fight. I probably feel like I know you far more than you know me because I listen to you weekly. I know you take seriously what people say about the podcast. I don't want to just present the problem without a solution. Everyone likes cheering for the underdog and somehow makes a personal connection because they feel like the underdog in life. If you could take an individual and occasionally do a show and follow up with the person and the process, the systems and coaching, I think it will give the audience a way to connect closer to the show and the Ziglar teachings, because they feel like they're being coached themselves. They feel like the underdog and now they have someone who is just like them that they can root for inevitably, though they are really rooting for themselves. No, that wouldn't be every show, because that would just be boring; however, someone that you can follow and occasionally check up on may be a cool idea. This is why I messaged you about a couple weeks ago, what I wanted to talk to you about.

[45:45] I have never been to sky diving and I think I am gonna love doing sky diving. And I can probably watch videos on and read books, go to the Internet and see what you do and what you don’t do. But, you know that the first time I jump out of the plane I would have a dive master, that kind of thing is a much better experience. And, you know, people come from different backgrounds and may not have the pleasant experience. So, you are just talking those places, like I know I wanna do, but how to go on the next level? And, so, I am right there with you. Just know that it is possible, there are things which you can do when you follow God’s plan in the right things. The question is if we have the confidence to go out and do that.

[47:07] Maybe there is somebody in the personal development world who is willing to do that reality show or the podcast. When we bring on David Wright, who’s our head one-on-one coach, the coach works on the podcast and also teaches audiences that, hey, this is the breakthrough principle we do. Maybe we’ve got some podcaster who does small businesses, or some entrepreneur, somebody who’s got a small business, and they are kind of stuck in small business and they have to do the same kind of thing. Maybe they can write and record in so that the whole world can hear about it. So, if somebody is willing to step up and say yes, I will share my challenge and that’s what tells me that it is far more likely to follow through.

[49:10] If that sounds interesting, let us know; you can respond at or just email us[email protected] Let us know what your thoughts are. Not only give us the review, but also tell us why, specifically. You can post questions on any of these.